My Birth PLAN

I wanted to start off this post with a quote that really put into perspective why a birth plan is more then necessary.

“By failing to prepare, you are preparing to fail” -Ben Franklin

That quote is so very important when it comes to making a birth plan and following through with doing that. There are so many sites online now that help you create a birth plan and tell you what things you definitely want to put in there so you aren’t making a big decision at, what could be, a very stressful time.

So here is my birth PLAN. I emphasize the plan in that because it’s just that, my plan. By creating this, I have a benchmark of what I would like to do when it comes time for Baby Hotmar to make her arrival. I’m going in with an open mind to whatever may come my way! But by at least preparing for this extremely huge day, I can place in my mind that this what I want to do and if I put my mind to it, I can do it! (so long as baby girl is doing fine!)

My main goal of labor and delivery is basically to do just what a women’s body is meant to do, give birth. I will be doing things as naturally as I possibly can to try to avoid any types of complications with medications as well as recovering faster and in my normal state of mind. (with a little stress and pain to add to that).

So, below is my birth plan. Please feel free to use the basis of the birth plan for yourself, just know that I am not a medical professional, at least no more then a Medical Assistant. I love feedback but please don’t discourage me to do what I feel completely comfortable with and have been preparing for since I found out I was pregnant.

Thank you!


To: Caregivers at St. Mary’s Hospital, Obstetrical nursing staff of St. Mary’s Hospital
From:  Mother and Father

We have chosen to give birth at the maternity ward of St. Mary’s Hospital because of their outstanding facility and great staff.  We are requesting your help to attain our goals and have a happy, healthy birth. In the event of complications, we will give our full cooperation after an informed discussion with the doctor and private consideration between mother and father.

  • Before and during admission/labor, we would like no visitors. After delivery is complete and we are comfortable with visitors coming, we would only like Deb and Dennis Hotmar, Robin Hook, Scott and Lynn Graff, Denise and Nick Hauptli, and Victoria Graff to be able to visit us. Margaret Romano will also be coming to take my placenta for encapsulation.

First Stage of Labor:

  • Those to be present at all times at the labor and birth Dan Hotmar
  • I would like to labor at home as long as possible and request the option to return home if I arrive at less than 5 cm dilated.
  • I would like to have my birthing ball, hot pack and back massager and request to have showers and tub for pain relief when desired. I will also be using acupressure, breathing techniques/distractions and hypnobirth during this phases of labor.
  • If IV is deemed necessary, please use a heparin lock so that I can move around and walk as needed. Please help to remind me to stay hydrated.
  • Please no internal fetal monitoring unless emergency arises.
  • Vaginal exams only upon consent and as few as possible to avoid rupture of membranes
  • Please no pitocin or breaking of water unless deemed medically necessary
  • No analgesia or anesthesia unless requested.
  • Freedom to move and walk during labor.
  • Quiet room, no excess staff please. We will have music playing during the entire labor stages.

Second Stage Labor :

  • Choice of position for pushing; please no stirrups
  • Mother will need assistance with when to push, please remind her.
  • No episiotomy, please
  • If delivery assistance is needed, please use suction instead of forceps.
  • Please place baby on mother’s abdomen after birth, unless medical intervention is necessary.
  • Cord to be cut by father, after pulsing stops
  • Breastfeed immediately to help birth placenta – no pitocin, uterine massage, or pulling of cord please
  • Keep lights low
  • If stitching is necessary, please use local anesthetic.
  • Placenta will be kept for encapsulation, please place the placenta in container with ice packs so it can be taken by Margaret Romano.

Third Stage Labor:

  • Newborn to stay with parents at all times; no nursery visits please
  • Please delay all routine exams for one hour to allow for bonding time.
  • Please perform all physical exams and procedures in room with parents.
  • If warming is needed, baby is to be placed on mother’s chest with blankets.
  • Breastfeeding only: no bottles, pacifiers, artificial nipples, formula, or water
  • Father to stay with baby and mother at all times

We thank you in advance for your support and kind attention to our choices. We look forward to a wonderful birth.

NOTE: In the event of a c-section, I would like Dan Hotmar to be present. Please let the baby remain with mother until stitched up and ready to be moved to recovery.


Honey dew you want to get me a Drumstick?


Yum, Honey Dew! Baby girl is about the size of a honey dew and is gaining about 1/2 lb. every week!!!

Weight: 4.2-5.8 lbs

Height: 17-18″ from crown to heel 🙂

How far along? 32 weeks!

Total weight gain/loss: +15 lbs 🙂

Stretch marks? Still none yet 🙂

Sleep: depends on the day really. I’ve been having some wicked hip cramps on whatever side I lay on when I first fall asleep. But usually I just wake up once a night to use the bathroom. I’ve been drinking a full glass of water about 1 hour before bed plus drinking my Pregnancy Tea and that seems to help with the cramps, they are less frequent if I do that.

Best moment this week: Best thing this week, by far, my first baby shower!!! I got soooo much good stuff! Baby girl got 26 books, plus lots of other stuff! Daddy is getting really excited now because I think it’s hitting him that time is flying and baby girl will be here before we know it! We’ve also got her room basically painted and put together! Just needs some finishing touches and some decorations!!!! Then I will be in my nesting phase and will get to organize all her stuff and get ready for her arrival 🙂 🙂

Food cravings: Oh man, Drumsticks have been my weakness lately…nothing will substitute it either. Last night, at about 9:15pm, Dan and I had to go to Kwik Trip because I wanted one so bad! But otherwise, sometimes I will see a sign or commercial and go mmm that sounds good!

Anything making you queasy or sick: Haven’t had anymore issues with that! Thank goodness!

Have you started to show yet: FINALLY people besides those who know I’m pregnant are noticing. Such a great feeling! I’m still told that I’m little for how far I am, but that’s okay! I’m okay with that! My doctor said I will probably just gain about 20 lbs unless I start packing on the weight in these last few months. But I don’t see that happening. I’ve been eating pretty good (minus of course the Drumsticks). haha

Belly Button in or out? still in, but man, it’s seriously getting pretty darn close!

Wedding rings on or off? I don’t ever really take it off 🙂

Happy or Moody most of the time: I’m definitely happier, but don’t piss me off…cus you won’t win!

Weekly Wisdom: Have crib or pack n’ play ready for storage of shower stuff after the shower…unless the nursery is all set up!

Milestones: First baby shower 🙂

Next appointments: Dr. Weston today!